海燕飞扬 发表于 2023-11-23 10:36

来自冯仑的提醒:人在变强大前 往往会在两个方面很安静

<p class="ql-align-justify" style="overflow-y: auto; max-width: 100%; line-height: 30px; margin-top: 0px !important; margin-bottom: 0px !important; padding: 0px !important;"><span style="font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">对一个盼望变强的人来说,“安静”是贬义词,意味着某个人脆弱、胆怯、各方面才能不够,只能被人欺负,我曾也这样以为,以至一度轻视那些安静的人,但最近读了冯仑后,我才认识到,包括我在内,大多数人都搞错了,对”安静“有很大的误解,那些”安静“的人,不只不弱小,反而远远比普通人更强大。</span></p><p class="ql-align-justify" style="overflow-y: auto; max-width: 100%; line-height: 30px; margin-top: 0px !important; margin-bottom: 0px !important; padding: 0px !important;"><br/></p><p class="ql-align-justify" style="overflow-y: auto; max-width: 100%; line-height: 30px; margin-top: 0px !important; margin-bottom: 0px !important; padding: 0px !important; text-align: center;"><img src="https://www.usdt94.top/upload/forum/img/1700706709625092553.png" title="1700706709625092553.png" alt="05.png" id="img_upload" width="842" height="503"/></p><p class="ql-align-justify" style="overflow-y: auto; max-width: 100%; line-height: 30px; margin-top: 0px !important; margin-bottom: 0px !important; padding: 0px !important;"><br/></p><p class="ql-align-justify" style="overflow-y: auto; max-width: 100%; line-height: 30px; margin-top: 0px !important; margin-bottom: 0px !important; padding: 0px !important;"><span style="font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">比方一个在争持中“安静”的人,看似他被人压了一头,实践上是在安静的寻觅漏洞,一招制敌。</span></p><p class="ql-align-justify" style="overflow-y: auto; max-width: 100%; line-height: 30px; margin-top: 0px !important; margin-bottom: 0px !important; padding: 0px !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">那一个人在变强大之前,到底在哪些方面会安静呢?冯仑给出了答案:那些即将变得强大的人,往往会在两个方面表现出安静,是哪两个方面那?</span></p><p class="ql-align-justify" style="overflow-y: auto; max-width: 100%; line-height: 30px; margin-top: 0px !important; margin-bottom: 0px !important; padding: 0px !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;"><br/></span></p><p class="ql-align-justify" style="overflow-y: auto; max-width: 100%; line-height: 30px; margin-top: 0px !important; margin-bottom: 0px !important; padding: 0px !important; text-align: center;"><span style="max-width: 100%;"><img src="https://www.usdt94.top/upload/forum/img/1700706304532019506.png" title="1700706304532019506.png" alt="02.png" id="img_upload" width="845" height="465"/></span></p><p class="ql-align-justify" style="overflow-y: auto; max-width: 100%; line-height: 30px; margin-top: 0px !important; margin-bottom: 0px !important; padding: 0px !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;"><br/></span></p><p class="ql-align-justify" style="overflow-y: auto; max-width: 100%; line-height: 30px; margin-top: 0px !important; margin-bottom: 0px !important; padding: 0px !important;"><strong><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 18px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">1:在交流上安静,只说重要的话</span></strong><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 18px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif;"><br/></span></p><p class="ql-align-justify" style="overflow-y: auto; max-width: 100%; line-height: 30px; margin-top: 0px !important; margin-bottom: 0px !important; padding: 0px !important;"><strong><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 18px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif;"><br/></span></strong></p><p class="ql-align-justify" style="overflow-y: auto; max-width: 100%; line-height: 30px; margin-top: 0px !important; margin-bottom: 0px !important; padding: 0px !important;"><br/></p><p class="ql-align-justify" style="overflow-y: auto; max-width: 100%; line-height: 30px; margin-top: 0px !important; margin-bottom: 0px !important; padding: 0px !important;"><span style="font-size: 18px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">交流看似是在互相对话,其实最忌讳的是不停地说话,由于交流总归是有目的的,而很多人的思想又是发散的,并且我们在说话的时分,都喜欢站在本人的角度去表达,这样把一群人放在一同说话,就会呈现这样一种状况:</span></p><p class="ql-align-justify" style="overflow-y: auto; max-width: 100%; line-height: 30px; margin-top: 0px !important; margin-bottom: 0px !important; padding: 0px !important;"><span style="font-size: 18px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">说话说不到目的上,每个人都在说本人所想,产生抵触。</span></p><p class="ql-align-justify" style="overflow-y: auto; max-width: 100%; line-height: 30px; margin-top: 0px !important; margin-bottom: 0px !important; padding: 0px !important;"><br/></p><p class="ql-align-justify" style="overflow-y: auto; max-width: 100%; line-height: 30px; margin-top: 0px !important; margin-bottom: 0px !important; padding: 0px !important; text-align: center;"><img src="https://www.usdt94.top/upload/forum/img/1700706195349013772.png" title="1700706195349013772.png" alt="01.png" id="img_upload" width="842" height="445"/></p><p class="ql-align-justify" style="overflow-y: auto; max-width: 100%; line-height: 30px; margin-top: 0px !important; margin-bottom: 0px !important; padding: 0px !important;"><br/></p><p class="ql-align-justify" style="overflow-y: auto; max-width: 100%; line-height: 30px; margin-top: 0px !important; margin-bottom: 0px !important; padding: 0px !important;"><br/></p><p class="ql-align-justify" style="overflow-y: auto; max-width: 100%; line-height: 30px; margin-top: 0px !important; margin-bottom: 0px !important; padding: 0px !important;"><span style="font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">交流上安静,就能很好地防止这种状况发作,由于人都会有跟风心理,一个人安静了,另外几个交流讨论的人本能的会更安静一些,更聚焦目的一些,就算他们要产生争论,也会更少一些。</span></p><p class="ql-align-justify" style="overflow-y: auto; max-width: 100%; line-height: 30px; margin-top: 0px !important; margin-bottom: 0px !important; padding: 0px !important;"><span style="font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">就算他们还在争持,你如今安静了,相当于就处在了一个局外人的状态,有句话说得好:“当局者迷旁观者清”,假如这个局解不了的时分,你是旁观者,便能用更简短、重要的话来说出解局的计划了。</span></p><p class="ql-align-justify" style="overflow-y: auto; max-width: 100%; line-height: 30px; margin-top: 0px !important; margin-bottom: 0px !important; padding: 0px !important;"><span style="font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">也就是当一个人在交流上安静的时分,不只能保证交流更顺利地停止,还能让每次交流的目的都尽可能地到达,把每件事都做好,一朝一夕不这个安静的人不就越来越强大了吗?</span></p><p class="ql-align-justify" style="overflow-y: auto; max-width: 100%; line-height: 30px; margin-top: 0px !important; margin-bottom: 0px !important; padding: 0px !important;"><br/></p><p class="ql-align-justify" style="overflow-y: auto; max-width: 100%; line-height: 30px; margin-top: 0px !important; margin-bottom: 0px !important; padding: 0px !important; text-align: center;"><img src="https://www.usdt94.top/upload/forum/img/1700706386668071446.png" title="1700706386668071446.png" alt="03.png" id="img_upload" width="841" height="408"/></p><p class="ql-align-justify" style="overflow-y: auto; max-width: 100%; line-height: 30px; margin-top: 0px !important; margin-bottom: 0px !important; padding: 0px !important;"><br/></p><p class="ql-align-justify" style="overflow-y: auto; max-width: 100%; line-height: 30px; margin-top: 0px !important; margin-bottom: 0px !important; padding: 0px !important;"><strong><span style="font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">2:面对逆境是安静 保持绝对的理性</span></strong><span style="font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0);"><br/></span></p><p class="ql-align-justify" style="overflow-y: auto; max-width: 100%; line-height: 30px; margin-top: 0px !important; margin-bottom: 0px !important; padding: 0px !important;"><strong><span style="font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0);"><br/></span></strong></p><p class="ql-align-justify" style="overflow-y: auto; max-width: 100%; line-height: 30px; margin-top: 0px !important; margin-bottom: 0px !important; padding: 0px !important;"><span style="font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">比方你被老板骂了,有些人很脆弱,东想西想,就把被老板骂这件事当成了逆境,但其实只需你冷静下来,搞分明本人的缺乏,并去补偿好,说不定还会被老板夸奖呢,这难道还能说是逆境吗?</span></p><p class="ql-align-justify" style="overflow-y: auto; max-width: 100%; line-height: 30px; margin-top: 0px !important; margin-bottom: 0px !important; padding: 0px !important;"><span style="font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0);"><br/></span></p><p class="ql-align-justify" style="overflow-y: auto; max-width: 100%; line-height: 30px; margin-top: 0px !important; margin-bottom: 0px !important; padding: 0px !important;"><span style="font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">所以说面对逆境时的安静最大的作用就是抹去逆境的面纱,让它显露原本的面目,让你不至于心态失衡,有问题就处理,假如只是本人想多了就不再去想了,能持续做到这件事的人,常常能做到持续处理大量的问题,不就越来越强大了吗?</span></p><p class="ql-align-justify" style="overflow-y: auto; max-width: 100%; line-height: 30px; margin-top: 0px !important; margin-bottom: 0px !important; padding: 0px !important;"><span style="font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0);"><br/></span></p><p class="ql-align-justify" style="overflow-y: auto; max-width: 100%; line-height: 30px; margin-top: 0px !important; margin-bottom: 0px !important; padding: 0px !important; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0);"><img src="https://www.usdt94.top/upload/forum/img/1700706547109080679.png" title="1700706547109080679.png" alt="04.png" id="img_upload" width="854" height="461"/></span></p><p class="ql-align-justify" style="overflow-y: auto; max-width: 100%; line-height: 30px; margin-top: 0px !important; margin-bottom: 0px !important; padding: 0px !important;"><span style="font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0);"><br/></span></p><p class="ql-align-justify" style="overflow-y: auto; max-width: 100%; line-height: 30px; margin-top: 0px !important; margin-bottom: 0px !important; padding: 0px !important;"><span style="background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">坚持理性的中心是要脱离心情,而要脱离心情,就一定不能堕入眼前正在阅历的事情中,而高纬度视角,其实是换一个不一样但更全面的视角去察看眼前的事情,其实就是脱离了眼前事。</span></p><p class="ql-align-justify" style="overflow-y: auto; max-width: 100%; line-height: 30px; margin-top: 0px !important; margin-bottom: 0px !important; padding: 0px !important;"><span style="background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0);"><br/></span></p><p class="ql-align-justify" style="overflow-y: auto; max-width: 100%; line-height: 30px; margin-top: 0px !important; margin-bottom: 0px !important; padding: 0px !important;"><span style="background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">你是不是总是因为失败而屡屡放弃?其实只要你能在正确的道路上熬得住,你就离成功不远了。</span></p><p class="ql-align-justify" style="overflow-y: auto; max-width: 100%; line-height: 30px; margin-top: 0px !important; margin-bottom: 0px !important; padding: 0px !important;"><span style="color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: arial; font-size: 18px; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><br/></span></p><p class="ql-align-justify" style="overflow-y: auto; max-width: 100%; line-height: 30px; margin-top: 0px !important; margin-bottom: 0px !important; padding: 0px !important; text-align: center;"><span style="color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: arial; font-size: 18px; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><img src="https://www.usdt94.top/upload/forum/img/1700706919990015868.png" title="1700706919990015868.png" alt="06.png" id="img_upload" width="859" height="454"/></span></p><p class="ql-align-justify" style="overflow-y: auto; max-width: 100%; line-height: 30px; margin-top: 0px !important; margin-bottom: 0px !important; padding: 0px !important;"><span style="color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: arial; font-size: 18px; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><br/></span></p><p class="ql-align-justify" style="overflow-y: auto; max-width: 100%; line-height: 30px; margin-top: 0px !important; margin-bottom: 0px !important; padding: 0px !important; text-align: center;"><strong><span style="color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: arial; font-size: 18px; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);">写在最后:人生在世,难是常态,要想活下来,就得扛住事!</span></strong></p><p class="ql-align-justify" style="overflow-y: auto; max-width: 100%; line-height: 30px; margin-top: 0px !important; margin-bottom: 0px !important; padding: 0px !important;"><span style="font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0);"><br/></span></p><p><br/></p>

青萍之末 发表于 2023-11-23 10:38

<p>还真是这样,安静有时候很管用</p>

鱼天下菜 发表于 2023-11-23 10:42

安静确实是很重要的呀

沐浴晨阳 发表于 2023-11-23 10:54

<p><span style="color: rgb(28, 25, 23); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, &quot;Segoe UI&quot;, Roboto, Oxygen, Ubuntu, Cantarell, &quot;Fira Sans&quot;, &quot;Droid Sans&quot;, &quot;Helvetica Neue&quot;, sans-serif; font-size: medium; white-space: pre-wrap; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);">面对逆境时,安静清醒很重要。我曾被领导批评工作不足,一时难免心烦。但仔细想来,领导说的不无道理。于是我静下心来反省,找出不足,然后继续努力改进。结果领导后来夸奖我工作责任心强。</span></p>

剑走江湖 发表于 2023-11-23 10:57

青萍之末 发表于 2023-11-23 10:57:22
<p>还真是这样,安静有时候很管用</p>

当初我啊,也老是一个小事就情绪用事,结果问题一个接一个解决不了,现在知道了,保持冷静理性,分清主次,不要随便就动气。而且,难免会遇到困难,但只要不放弃,一定可以通过的!

梦回长安 发表于 2023-11-23 11:12

<p><span style="color: rgb(30, 31, 42); font-family: ui-sans-serif, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, &quot;Segoe UI&quot;, Roboto, &quot;Helvetica Neue&quot;, Arial, &quot;Noto Sans&quot;, sans-serif, &quot;Apple Color Emoji&quot;, &quot;Segoe UI Emoji&quot;, &quot;Segoe UI Symbol&quot;, &quot;Noto Color Emoji&quot;; white-space: pre-wrap; background-color: rgb(249, 249, 251);">只有心态稳的时候,问题才能好好解决呢!</span></p>

海燕飞扬 发表于 2023-11-24 10:46

青萍之末 发表于 2023-11-24 10:46:05
<p>还真是这样,安静有时候很管用</p>

该安静的时候一定要安静,这是在沉淀

海燕飞扬 发表于 2023-11-24 10:46

鱼天下菜 发表于 2023-11-24 10:46:29
安静确实是很重要的呀

是的,有时候还真能的需要安静的思考

海燕飞扬 发表于 2023-11-24 10:47

沐浴晨阳 发表于 2023-11-24 10:47:01
<p><span style="color: rgb(28, 25, 23); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, &quot;Segoe UI&quot;, Roboto, Oxygen, Ubuntu, Cantarell, &quot;Fira Sans&quot;, &quot;Droid Sans&quot;, &quot;Helvetica Neue&quot;, sans-serif; font-size: medium; white-space: pre-wrap; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);">面对逆境时,安静清醒很重要。我曾被领导批评工作不足,一时难免心烦。但仔细想来,领导说的不无道理。于是我静下心来反省,找出不足,然后继续努力改进。结果领导后来夸奖我工作责任心强。</span></p>

面对逆境的时候更需要安静,让自己冷静下来

海燕飞扬 发表于 2023-11-24 10:48

剑走江湖 发表于 2023-11-24 10:48:17
青萍之末 发表于 2023-11-23 10:57:22
<p>还真是这样,安静有时候很管用</p>

当初我啊,也老是一个小事就情绪用事,结果问题一个接一个解决不了,现在知道了,保持冷静理性,分清主次,不要随便就动气。而且,难免会遇到困难,但只要不放弃,一定可以通过的!

所以安静是情绪调控的良药,谁都需要

海燕飞扬 发表于 2023-11-24 10:48

梦回长安 发表于 2023-11-24 10:48:42
<p><span style="color: rgb(30, 31, 42); font-family: ui-sans-serif, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, &quot;Segoe UI&quot;, Roboto, &quot;Helvetica Neue&quot;, Arial, &quot;Noto Sans&quot;, sans-serif, &quot;Apple Color Emoji&quot;, &quot;Segoe UI Emoji&quot;, &quot;Segoe UI Symbol&quot;, &quot;Noto Color Emoji&quot;; white-space: pre-wrap; background-color: rgb(249, 249, 251);">只有心态稳的时候,问题才能好好解决呢!</span></p>

是的,只有情绪稳定,心态也才能更好

飞舞倾城 发表于 2023-11-24 11:25

<p>有时候安静并不代表你没立场、没思想,安静更多是素质的体现</p>

寒潭月影 发表于 2023-11-24 11:55

<p>我也有安静不下来的时候,情绪一直无法平复,不做点啥事都觉得自己要疯了的节奏</p>
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